How do you help someone when you’re struggling with the same issues? Is it hypocritical to dole out the usual advice, when you know how it feels so empty and useless when you receive it? Or is it something that you just need to keep hearing until it clicks like an epiphany?
I’ve recently reconnected with a friend from my past, and it’s almost freaky how alike we are in our emotional stature. We both ebb and flow in and out of depression. When mine hit, he made me promise not to follow through. When his hit, I reminded him of the promise, but was able to relate to feeling so hopeless and fatigued.
We both keep pushing, so far, but if I ever expected someone to follow through, it would be him. I hope that he doesn’t. I would hate to learn about it because everyone thinks he hates me so I wouldn’t be told. I’m glad and grateful he allowed me the possibility to explain why I did, said, and acted the way I did when he began to hate me. I deserved every ounce of it, but I did want to at least give him closure. I’m glad he is allowing me to try to show him my true colors.
Be gentle with eachother. Remember that we all share struggles and that the degree of severity may change, but our “needs” all boil down to the same few. LISTEN, I mean actively listen to hear/understand, not respond. Think about your RESPONSE after you LISTEN to the person reaching out to you. Your reaction is worthless in times of strife. If you or anyone you know is seriously contemplating suicide, reach out to a friend, a hotline, or even me. I am here and ready to listen.